Its this wave I see, I feel, I hear, I sense...
call it generation wave 24-25...
Its when my aged people are in the same boat...
some married, some enagaged, some divorced, some commited, some pregnant, some with kids, some seeing guys/girls for marriage, some preparing for marriage, some fighting it hard with parents for their approval, some preparing for honeymoon... and there are some more...
Some going through the worst phases of their lives... atleast thats what each of us of this generation feel that this is like the worst sitution of our lives...
Its the wave of chosing your partners yourself, taking responsibility of living with those partners instead of leaving it on parents...
Its the wave of waiting, holding on, testing paitence...
My married freind told me... "Relationships r no different... whether married or not... the only difference is that I have a mangal sutra and I physically live with the man I fight with"
Everyone around me, associated to me are going through almost the same time... whether its in terms of relationships or professional lives... have either identified the partner and so trying hard to get him/her, or going through rejections and reuninciations from their partners for the same reasons that everyone has... differences!, or waiting for the partner to come back, or waiting for the parents approval, or waiting to get a life...!!!
Relationship status changes... from unmarried to married, from single to commited, from one sided to both involved... but the emotions dont change... they are the same everywhere... the heart talks its language in the same way...
I dont really believe that marriage is what makes one commit. I live by commitments and stand for it... a maang ka sindoor and mangal sutra cannot force a commitment if they geniunely didnt want to be together... You commit if you want to commit and once you do... thats it!... there is no backing out then.... whether its working, not working, whether there are differences to deal with, fights and misunderstandings, the killer silence therapies or fireworks sounds... you learn to live with it all... coz its your word! your commitment! your stand!
Life looks like a hoax, a joke, a ridiculous game, completely hollow if you then back out from your commitement.
Dealing is obviously the most difficult part of life... easiest is to escape by saying its not working, so let me back out now before it gets too late and we get further involved! How far can you run this way, how many relationships can u escape this way, how far can u run!? how far!? coz one day... will be your day! and you will have to deal with whats there... instead of whats not there!
Reminds me of the dailouge from Runaway bride... though not the exact words but vaguaely... "I gurantee that one day either one or both of us will definately want to get of out this relationship, it will be that tuff... but if we dont get together than I will regret it more than anything else"... Thats exactly what happens... we get into relationships and than cant handle it, cant maintain it and hence get out of it thinking we dont deserve this stress but if we hold on in such times only then we realise there was so much more to it than just seeing the differences!
I look around and feel drained coz I see almost everyone going through this...
On the flip side I feel... its good that all of us in this age group is going through these times together... coz only then we can stand by each other! Not that anyone can reduce anyones pain... each of us has to go through our set of pain ourselves only, no one can exchange their shoes of pain... but what we as together can do is... support to "hold on", support each other to "hold on"!
Guess the key word of this gen wave is "hang on"... "wait for a while"... "be patient"... Let life find its way out itself instead of you trying to push it in a way that it leads to either isolation or destruction!
A freind told me "we loose soo many precious moments to live because we cling to our little ego or state of stuck mind when something doesnt happen the way we wanted"... I realised it over and over again when many a times I saw myself stuck in a situation and once I got out of it, I felt I could have lived it in a much better way... I lost that moment coz I was stuck when I was in it!
When you look back... you just see that soo much of your life could have been lived with so much more cheerness, but when in that situation we couldnt see a possibility beyond it... but now when out of it, you know that you can deal it better, you can create a better possibility when in similar situations again!
Happy to be a part of this gen coz can feel a connect to almost everyone who is going through the same times or happier times or worst times... Its time, to give time, time!
Will fight this wave thats draining our gen completely... will hold on!
afterall... its the choice of living by a commitment made!!!
I am responsible for my commitment! Gonna complete almost a quarter life very soon! Its taken me a quarter life to understand the value of friends, of said words, of what exists!
I acknowledge and thank every individual's contribution to a quarter of my life...!
In some form or the other this gen is touching lives... ready to make a difference! ready to live for a stand! ready to make a wave... ready to hold on! :)
Its true that no one is indispensible... everyone lives, whether someone is along with u or not, u have to live, whether by complusion or by choice, but u live... Mom used to tell me "aangli jal ma thi nikle aane eeni jayga purai jai! - its jus means that put a finger in the water and then get it out... the place that ur finger took is taken by the water and the place is filled"... it just explains how dispensible each of us are... yet we value so much of the existence in our surroundings.
Thats what I call beauty of life!
SoMe NiGHTS
11 years ago