It's Life!

Strange are these ways of life!
Leave things on fate and time when situations become out of control. But never to loose hope. You need to keep trying your effort on it.
Suddenly, life takes a U-Turn when you don’t even imagine thinking of it. It seems weird to accept what you expected once upon a time. Suddenly, something you always expected starts happening but that happens when you don’t expect it to happen. That’s what God does--- He brings sudden changes, sudden tensions and sudden stress relievers as well.
Life becomes stressful when it has to deal with tensions. And the next moment the tension goes off, the stress is also off-loaded. You are once again ready to face a new challenge.
When relations become stronger, expectations increase. With expectations, desires increase and when these expectations are not fulfilled, tension and stress arises. But we individuals never come out with our stress. We open up saying ‘I expect this from you’ or ‘I wish this comes true’; but when these expectations don’t come true, we never open up. We never say at that time or frankly say to the person that ‘I had expected this but maybe the expectation was too high’. This time, we assume things, perceive it in our way and keep it to ourselves. That’s where we are letting our relationship fall into trouble because we are not opening up our expectations that didn’t come true. By doing this we are not letting the person explain why he/she didn’t fulfill our expectation. Maybe the reason is completely different from what we assume and how we perceive but since we didn’t give a chance to open up ourselves, we created negative feelings in our mind. The tension area becomes fully occupied in mind. But the bottom-line remains same- that we are not ready to open up. We get scared that things will get worse but how will it and why will it?
By not opening up we are giving opportunities for the opposite person to assume things. That person might interpret the situation in a different way and that’s how a misunderstanding gets created. So the root remains that one expects something, that other does not or maybe could not fulfill that expectation. So that person now feels bad and assumes the reasons for his/her expectation not being fulfilled. But these assumptions, he does not confirm by opening up to the other person and because of the assumptions starts behaving in a weird manner with the other. On this changed behavior and attitude the other tries to interpret it in his way of perception; but even he doesn’t try to open up and state his interpretation. So no reason becomes a root reason for a stupid and senseless misunderstanding.
We are human beings. Because of our fear of the occurrence of misunderstandings, we cannot stop or limit our expectations because this is the human nature created by the power that rules individuals. The only thing we can do is not to assume things. Rather than assumptions, its better to confront and get over misunderstandings and misinterpretations. Until the ice doesn’t break, there is no chance that the relationship can get back to normal. It’s the only way relationships work!
Now when finally people open up to each other, they realize that whatever they wasted on assumptions and making wrong notions could have been saved to make the relationship stronger only if they had opened up to each other earlier.
After such misunderstandings, normally, relationships become normal. More of affection and caring happens towards each other. But this in turn develops more expectations and when this fairy tale dreams end, one realizes the truth of relationship. He faces through much more stress than the one before because this time the relationship had been much more intense. The same cycle of misunderstandings repeats!
Thus, it’s better to live in reality and have practical expectations.