It's Life!

Relationships! .. They are the most integral part of every individual. He has many acquaintances each day. He has many relationships around his surroundings. How he deals with each of them depends on them. When a relationship starts it’s the most beautiful thing over on earth. As time passes by relationships have to face its share of lows and highs.
These relationships are so unpredictable. They are so weird. How they start, how they end we can’t even understand. We try to hold on these relationships but we fail. They have so many different shades. They show so many new perspectives of life which an individual cannot explore alone. When relations begin they bring so much satisfaction and excitement with them. They have to go through those phases that will test them. It’s like a fish taken out of water. The way it struggles for its life the same ways relationships have to face such instances where it is tested. Just like a living chicken is put on the stove to be cooked.. Relationships are put on fire. Whether it survives or it destroys or it gets stronger.. that depends on the strength and faith of the relationship. It depends on how much a person can have faith; it depends on the extent to which a person can trust himself and his relationships. It doesn’t work according to the way you plan it. Misunderstandings take the place of understanding. There is a feeling of fear to loose on the relationship, there is insecurity, there is no trust suddenly where once upon a time their was only trust.
Suddenly two individuals change, their attitudes change towards each other. I don’t say that a relation should remain the same as it is started all through its life. But I feel it’s necessary that people realize the worth of every relationship and acquaintance it makes in life. By crying for that relationship you are making it stronger, you are giving that relationship so much importance in your life that you have tears when it’s in trouble. At times relations just don’t work. At one point of time it ends. It doesn’t mean two people couldn’t get along. It just means that the relationship was not meant to be. Instead of suffering in future it makes you strong today. It’s important to get over such relations which are not meant to be. But I don’t understand that when they were not destined to continue then why did they start. May be because that relation had to teach you how to live. Maybe you had forgotten to smile and that relationship came like a power in your life and brought life within you. Since it was a power for a while, it had to leave and therefore it faded away out of your life and then we are left with complaining and regretting. Instead can’t we just learn out of it and thank the power that it taught us how to live instead of criticizing that it left.
Why relationships become our weakness? Why does it make us so weak that we can’t withstand life. Why does it affect a person’s behavior, a person’s life so much? Individuals always need support. They can survive alone. They need to live and to live strangers makes us feel so strong. That also affects us then obviously a long lasting relationship has to affect a person’s emotional balance. Emotionally a person becomes weak when he faces a low in any relationship in life. However strong he may be in every other aspect of life but when it comes to relationships he becomes the weakest. Infact that’s the only stage of life where every individual stands to be equal. Equal in the sense to be weak towards a relationship. It’s a feeling that everyone has to go through. A feeling where a person feels destroyed, helpless and devastated. He feels he is a looser and will never grow up in life. Just another person made so much of a difference in your life that you felt you are not worth anything in life. That’s the power in relationships. Little gestures and expressions of anger, dislike, distrust by one can ruin the day of another one. Why does such distrust come suddenly. Is it that there was never trust. It was just a mask over distrust or maybe it’s the other way round. Trust was the original face and Distrust wore the mask over trust.
We expect to work out relationships as per our condition. We feel we can set rules and limitations for it. We can make it or break it but it doesn’t work that way. Why do we criticize that we had to suffer so much in this relationship, instead cant we just move out and see the same relationship through a different perspective and see that we learnt so much more, we gained much more than loosing.
We set rules and principals but when they pass through the heart they all vanish because nothing can withstand infront of the heart. Afterall it’s only his heart that has the power to let us live then why live according to our brains. Instead live according to what your heart says. Why hold back emotions and analyze it, instead walk on the direction that your heart shows. It’s the heart that binds to strangers in a never ending relationship. It has so much power than why not go according to it!